Cancer man dating tips are best understood when they are being provided by a Cancerian male himself. So, in order to gather first- hand information that is genuine, I contacted 198 cancer males both online and offline.
This was a private experiment that I conducted in order to ascertain what a cancer man wants from his woman. After preparing a questionnaire, I started to question each and every one of the subjects.
Well, here is what I found:
Cancer Man Dating Tips Article Contents:
1) Early Stages of Dating a Cancer Man
2) Signs a Cancer Man is Serious about You
3) What Body Type does a Cancer Man Like?
4) What to Wear to Attract a Cancer Man?
5) Cancer Man Turn-Offs
6) What a Cancer Male is Attracted to Most?
7) What is a Cancer Man Ideal Woman Like?
8) How does a Cancer Man Test You?
9) Cancer Man Dating Tips FAQ
10) Conclusive Analysis on Dating a Cancer Man for the Very First Time
Early Stages of Dating a Cancer Man
When it comes to zodiac signs then, cancer is number four. The element is ‘water’ and the quality is ‘cardinal’. Cancer man is ruled by the planet ‘moon’ and falls in the hands of planet ‘Mars’. The symbol as most of you may already be aware is ‘crab’.
So, Cancerian males are deep rooted emotional beings. Their decisions (in most cases) are made from the heart and not from the brain. Such is the effect of their water element.
From what I learnt after interviewing the subjects was that cancer men:
>>> are highly emotional beings that listen to their heart
>>> seldom take decisions based on practicality
>>> exhibit themselves as tough individuals. Nonetheless from deep within, they are soft and mushy.
>>> are very easy to hurt. When they do get hurt, they also become vindictive.
>>> caring, loyal and sensitive towards their partners.
>>> are extremely secretive and suspicious as well.
>>> follow their partners around to the extent of irritating them.
>>> love to control those around them. In this quest, they tend to upset their dates.
What Should You Just Start to date a Cancer Man?
Over here, I am addressing the issue of the early stage when you just got hooked to a cancer male. In the initial stages of your recent romance, everything seems mushy and too good to be true. Well, this is when you need to exercise caution.
Here is what all you can expect while staring to date a cancer male:
The Lack of Eye Contact:
Like it or not but a cancerian male is super shy. So, when he first sets out on a date with you, he may have a tough time looking you in the eye. If he does look you in the eye, his facial skin is sure to turn red (a clear indication that he is blushing).
Your Ear is What He Wants:
Cancer men are oozing with emotions. They are also very honest from inside. They are looking to share their innermost feelings with you. So, if you were to win his heart, you need to listen to his stories and secrets real hard.
The Super Soldier:
Your cancer man is super-duper protective about you. He shall go to any length to keep you safe and secure. This is with special regards to both physical as well as financial security. It can sometimes get too overwhelming.
No More Bars and Discs:
Your cancer man prefers quite party spots. Home is the best place he likes to dine at. Bars and restaurants playing loud music may be a ‘turn off’ for him. So, you can hope to watch a movie at his place and enjoy the evening holding hands.
The Shell Issue:
Cancer men are super-emotional by nature. Nonetheless, when they start to date a new girl, they try and exhibit an extrovert attitude. This is when they tend to subdue their natural persona. At times, it comes across (to you) as a split persona (but in reality it is done to impress you).
Passionate and Charming:
The water element and moon (ruling planet) make your cancer man a charmer indeed. He is a die-hard romantic and shall do unusual things to impress you. Bed time is best suited to relish his true feelings and passion.
The Wide Gap in Talks:
A Cancerian male is a secretive guy. He does not open up on his very first date. So, you need to be patient. Nonetheless, his homely qualities shall compel him to open up the moment he feels connected to you. Thereafter, all his secrets shall be out.
You Need to be Compassionate:
Cancerian male is super passionate by nature. He is always on the lookout for an emotionally stable yet compassionate female. If you fit that bill then, he is all yours to keep. So be passionate and be prepared to get a lot of attention from your man.
The Marriage Material:
Cancer male is not a guy who would double date you. He is a committed guy who sees his family above all. So, date a Cancerian only when you want to get married.
Mood Swings and Die Hard Memory:
When you start to date a Cancerian male, you shall notice his moods shift a lot. This is common for a cancer male. Nonetheless, he gets back to normal in a few hours.
Also, he remembers every trivial detail of the date. If you have somehow offended him, he may forgive you (he usually does). Nonetheless, the cancer man shall always remember what triggered him. So, he has a good memory.
Signs a Cancer Man is Serious about You
A cancer man is always emotional with special regards to his partner. He is also very romantic and passionate by nature. Nonetheless, his emotional and shy nature often masks whether he really loves you or not.
Well, here are the tell-tale signs that reveal whether a cancerian male is in serous love with you or not:
He Sees You Ahead of Time:
The biggest sign that a cancerian male is into you, is his vision. In simpler words, if he involves you in his upcoming projects then, he definitely loves you. For example, he states that in the next five years, you both shall purchase a house together.
The Special Feeling is Inevitable:
You get to experience love and affection at all times from your man. Gifts, gestures (hugs neck kisses etc.) are a routine affair. Your man often takes you out on dates. Basically, he cares for you more than anyone else.
He is Biased for You:
When a cancerian male is into you, he is often going out of the way to help you. For example, he shall try and get you an unfair promotion at work. When you witness such incidents, be assured that he loves you a lot.
Special Place in His Heart:
A cancer man is definitely in love with you when he does special things for you without bragging about it. He is also super emotional about you. The sensitivity of his actions for you are always felt.
His Gut Feeling about You is Unique:
When a cancerian is ‘head over heels for you’, he tends to pamper you with gifts. Regardless of the importance of the occasion, he shall keep on showering you with goodies. Moreover, his gut feeling about you and any issues that may be arising in your life is almost flawless.
The Friend & Family Connection:
Cancerians in love shall always try and introduce you to their buddies. They shall also help you meet their families. As they are family men, the opinion of their immediate family members matters a lot.
The Friendship & Attention Seeker:
A cancerian male in love often considered you as his best buddy. He shall behave with you like one does with their best friends only. Cancerians also seek your attention. When you give them their due attention, he shall simply love it.
A Good Listener & a Bodyguard:
Cancerians in love shall always listen to their beloved. They pay more attention to even the most trivial conversations with utmost attention. He is also always ready to defend you against any incident. So, whenever a cancer man is standing beside you like a shadow, consider it to be a display of love.
Bitterness is Evident:
Cancerian males are known to get bitter if you do not fall in line with their expectations. So, you can expect your cancer male to be envious of you if you hurt his ego. Nonetheless, if you go according to his expectations, he shall always be over courteous and nice to you.
A Great Listener & Secret Sharing Attitude:
A cancer man in love would always give you more time than anyone else. He shall even sacrifice his work-front just to hear you out.
When a cancerian is attached to you he shall share his innermost secrets openly with you. By nature, Cancerians are super secretive. So, this is a tell-tale sign that he loves you dearly.
The Flirting is an Obvious Sign:
Cancerians are not flirty by nature. They tend to ‘hit on you’ only when they are dead serious about you. So, if you notice a cancerian male hitting on you, be rest assured that he is serous for you.
What Body Type does a Cancer Man Like?
This is a very interesting topic. Nonetheless, the results are not what most would expect. Well, here goes my analysis based on the interview conducted on the 198 cancer males:
Cancer men are on the lookout for curvy woman. In simpler words, you should be neither petite nor overweight. So, a woman with a normal figure is best appreciated and liked by a cancerian male.
The Moon Rules:
A healthy woman with appropriate weight in the right places is what appeals to a cancerian male the most. Ruled by the planet moon, a cancer man is in favor of a natural feminine figure. A naturally healthy woman is considered childbearing to a cancerian male.
Women with naturally curvaceous figures are a turn-on for an intimate and passionate cancer male. A healthy skin tone and a healthy body compel a cancer male to get attracted to the female rather quickly.
Physically Active and Sporty:
Cancer men like their women to be physically active. Do not be surprised when he asks you join him in a marathon session. Gymming and swimming are activities that a cancer male would love to do with you.
Emotional Bond with Healthy Body:
Cancer males are family oriented by nature. For them, nothing is above and beyond a family. So, they seek a woman that appears to have the ability to raise a healthy family. This is why a woman with curvy figure is preferred over a thin or overweight woman.
What is the Role of Emotions and Intelligence in Dating a Cancer Man?
>>> Cancer men are emotional and they seek women that are emotional too. Hence, an ideal woman for a cancer male is one that is intelligent and intimate emotionally.
>>> She should think and feel from her heart and soul and not entirely by her brain.
>>> Conversations that exude creativity and intelligence are appreciated by cancer men the most.
>>> Sensitive and emotional woman are considered perfect homemakers by cancer men. As a cancerian is a home lover, sensitive women are on top of his wish-list.
What to Wear to Attract a Cancer Man?
Cancer men love to see their date dressed in a chic, stylish, feminine and flirty kind of dresses. This includes the clothes, the hairdo, footwear, as well as the jewellery/accessory combinations.
Basically, your dress should ooze confidence, uniqueness and positive vibes. Doing so shall encourage your cancerian male to get attracted towards you.
How to Pick the Right Dress for a Date with Your Cancer Man?
@ You need to pick a dress as per the occasion. These include a different dress for summers, winters, fall, cocktail party, beachwear etc. So, the dress differs as per the chosen occasion.
@ Your chosen dress needs to be casual yet comfortable. The dress should complement your chosen setting.
@ It should not be too clingy. Dresses that reveal flesh to a great extent may be disliked by your cancer man.
@ Casual and super-casual dresses are never recommended by cancerian males. Suits and semi-casual dresses are preferred.
@ Pick dresses that enhance your feminine quotient. So, avoid wearing jeans and tees/shirts or overalls as that is masculine in nature.
@ Avoid picking a dress that is outright formal. Instead, look for a chic and stylish (semi-formal or slightly casual) dress.
@ Your chosen clothes should emit positive energy that is driven by emotions.
How to Pick the Right Accessories with Your Dress while Dating a Cancer Male?
@ A simple handbag is sufficient to carry with the dress.
@ Do not overindulge yourself with accessories such as earrings, bangles, bracelets etc. Always keeps it to a bare minimal (such as a simple pair of earrings to go with the chosen dress).
@ The use of revealing and sexually stimulating jewellery should be avoided. A classic example of the same would be a navel piercing or a piercing on the tongue.
@ Swarovski or Boho jewellery is often liked by your cancer male.
@ A simple pair of sunglasses or a scarf that goes with your dress would do just fine.
How to Pick the Right Footwear for Your Very First Date with Your Cancer Man?
@ Both heels and flats are preferred. Nonetheless, the latter is more preferred over the former.
@ If you are taller than your cancer male then, wear flats. In case he is really tall then, opt for heels.
@ Never wear footwear that tends to tower over your cancer male.
@ If you choose platforms then, their heel-height needs to be less.
@ Ballet flats that have a pointed toe is preferred by a cancerian male.
@ Pump sandals are preferred but their heel height needs to be on the lower side.
How to Do Your Hair while Dating a Cancer Man (For the First Date)
@ There is no specific preference with regards to the hair (from a cancerian male). You can keep both long or short hair, as long as it is well groomed.
@ Ask your man what kind of hair he likes. If he likes straight hair and you have curls then, you should get them straightened.
@ Your hairdo should be simplistic. Never go for over-the-top styles.
@ Avoid infusing your hair with powerful perfumes. Scents of such kinds often put-off a cancerian male.
@ Choose a dress that includes your cancer man’s favorite colors. Basically, soft clothes with pleasant patterns that emit romance are preferred by a cancerian male.
What to Wear on a First date with a Cancer Man if I am Overweight?
@ First and foremost, you need to be comfortable in your skin. You need to be confident of who and what you are (this also includes your current body shape).
@ Pick clothes that enhance your confidence and persona. An overweight woman should be comfortable in a tunic or a spaghetti strap dress.
@ Pick cotton clothes over satin. Pick fabrics that do not cling to your skin. A cancer man loves overweight women that dress aptly.
@ Choose blues, green, white, silver over other colors.
What Turns Off a Cancer Man on his First Date?
When everything is set for that perfect date with your cancer man, it is now time to understand his moods. Simply put, you need to know what makes a cancerian male happy and what turns him off.
Here are a few things that turn off a cancer man while out with you on his first date:
@ I am assuming that you pick a venue for the date. If you pick a place that plays loud music or is super crowded, you can irritate your cancerian male.
@ If you wear clothes that are super revealing in nature then again, your man is sure to get pissed-off.
@ If the venue is quiet and the chosen dress that you wear is opt, all is well. Nonetheless, if you are ogling other men at the date venue then, you can easily hurt your cancer man.
@ Cancerians on their very first date (males) need complete attention from your end. If you ignore him, things shall not go in your favor.
@ If he shows commitment on his very first date and you ignore his pleas then again, things may go sideways for your cancer man. So, you need to show a little bit of commitment (even if it is your first date).
@ If you are offensive and assertive by nature then, you need to take a step back. Cancer men are overwhelmed by women that are too aggressive.
@ Cancerians are secretive in nature. Do not probe him on issues that he is not comfortable discussing. If you are persistent in your probing approach then, your chosen date can easily get turned-off.
@ Sometimes, you may be too tough to deal with. This is with the perspective of your chosen date. If your cancerian male is unable to get through you then, he shall head home.
What a Cancer Male is Attracted to Most?
Shy, silent and day dreamer is best attributed to the cancerian male. He is a silent type that does not open up easily in public. Despite being an introvert, cancerian males are loyal to their partners. They share a deep emotional bond with their families.
In this sub-heading, I shall discuss what attracts a cancer man on his very first date. Well, here goes:
Appropriate Dressing Sense:
First and foremost, you need to be aptly dressed. Cancer males like their women to wear clothes that exhibit positive emotional quotient.
Shoes with flat soles over heels are also preferred. Accessories too should be kept to a bare minimal. A bracelet or a clutch is preferred over heavily adorned jewels.
The Ability to Listen:
Cancerian males are always on the lookout for women that lend a ear. Simply put, you should have the ability to listen to what your man is saying. So, you need to be a good listener without being judgemental.
Cancerian males want you to listen to their innermost feelings. They do not want your opinion though. So, simply listen with an open mind and avoid providing a solution (just listen).
You Should be Loyal:
Cancerians love females that are loyal. He is always looking for a long term relationship and not a short fling. If you are a woman that is loyal to a single partner then, your cancerian male shall be pleased with you.
Family Oriented Approach:
Cancer men are seeking partners to get settled. Simply put, they are looking to start a family. If you fit this bill then, he is all in for you and vice versa. Basically, cancerian males view their family over anything else.
What is a Cancer Man Ideal Woman Like?
Moon is the element that determines the natural character of the cancerian male. This is why, he is super emotional and in need for emotional support. He is also fiercely loyal and would do anything to protect his partner.
Here is what attracts a cancer man to a woman:
The Soulmate and Loyalty Connection:
This is a strange concoction of family and character. Ironically, a cancerian male wants someone that resembles his mother (in character) to become his life partner.
As far as loyalty is concerned then, the concerned woman needs to be a die-hard fan of her man. Simply put, she should put his man (cancer male) before anything else in life. For a cancerian, trust and loyalty towards the family, is above anything else.
The Intimacy Level is Rather High:
Cancerian males are rather passionate and intimate in bed. Even otherwise, they like to have physical contact with their partner. So, holding hands, kisses on the neck and caressing the hair in public is quite common. If you allow this to happen, your man is a happy guy indeed.
Creative in Bed:
Cancerian males are passionate by nature. They shall go the extra mile to satisfy their partner in bed. They like women that enjoy oral foreplay and a prolonged time period in bed. Their emotions are in full exhibit while in bed.
They Like Women with Average Figure:
If you are too petite or overweight then, a cancer male may not like you. While this is not always true, it generally is. So, cancer males tend to prefer females that have an average figure.
They prefer to stay close to women that seem to give him the impression of raising healthy children. So, women with average weight and vital stats are often preferred over other body types.
Witty and Charming Persona:
Cancer men like women that make them feel comfortable. As Cancerians are rather moody by nature, they need someone that can make them laugh out aloud. Women with above average IQ is also preferred by Cancerians.
Simple and Loyal:
Women that have simple tastes are often preferred over complicated women. Simply put, if you are not overtly influenced by material goods or people then, cancerian men would love to be with you. Loyalty towards one individual is what a cancerian male desires the most from you.
A Shoulder to Lean Onto:
Cancer men want a shoulder to lean onto. They like women that are always there when they need them the most. In simpler words, if you are ready to support your cancer man who needs help then, you are their most cherished partner.
How does a Cancer Man Test You?
Cancer men are a mystery that only they can crack. They are shy, introverts, suspicious, fiercely protective, loyal and family oriented. If you are in love with a cancerian male then, be rest assured that he shall test you.
Here is how he shall gauge whether to take this relationship long distance or not:
Empathy is Always High on the List:
Cancer male is a compassionate and emotional being. He loves to be around women that have compassion. So, if you have a caring attitude, you are in his good books. Watch out while interacting with others in need of help. He is closely watching you!
The Retreat Option:
Well, this is a trick that a cancerian male plays to judge whether you are serious about him or not. He shall begin by slowly yet steadily retreating into his shell. This shall be followed by excusing himself on the pretext of some important chore.
Basically, he shall start to avoid you. If you follow him and are persistent despite being oblivious, the cancer man shall start to trust you completely. He shall get back to you again.
The Family Bonding is Supreme:
As I may have mentioned in my above paragraphs, the cancerian male is super-duper attached to his family. If he likes you, he shall introduce you to his family. He would also like to meet up with yours. If you gel well with his family members, he shall be with you for life.
Serious Discussions are on the Cards:
When a cancer man is serious about you, he would like to discuss his future with you. This includes your personal plans as well. He would be interested if you wish to work, start a family, share his hobbies etc.
He is really interested in your ambitions. Once he has ascertained what you want in life, he shall take his decision. Basically, if things go his way, he shall be more than willing to accept you as his life partner.
Special Occasions are Made even More Special:
Cancer men have a special place for your special occasions. This in turn implies that if he shall keep showering you with goodies all throughout the year. This includes your birthday, first date etc. etc. If he is serious about you then, he shall never let your wardrobe get empty.
Quality & Quantity Time Together:
Cancerians in love want to spend as much time as possible with their beloved. So, you can expect him to have you join his daily jog or gym sessions. Cancerian males like you to spend quality as well as quantity time with you.
The Inner Self is Finally Exposed:
Being secretive is a trademark of a cancerian male. Not only is he super secretive, his innermost feelings may be really impractical. So, hearing him blabber off his innermost feelings may be hard for some. Nonetheless, if you can pull through these sessions without being judgemental then, you have passed your test.
The Trust Factor:
Cancer man shall test you with regards to your trust. He shall usually leave his laptop unlocked. If you play ‘peek-a-boo’, you are done. If you tell him that his confidential laptop is open then, he shall begin to trust you. Here again, the test is based on your level of trust.
Cancer Man Dating Tips FAQ
Q-1: I am looking for a long term relationship. Is a cancer man a good bet?
A-1: Yes, Cancerian males are the best for long term relationships. They are shy, loyal and firm believers in the principles of a family. So if you want to settle down and have kids, a cancer man is the best bet.
Q-2: How do I impress a cancer male on the very first date?
A-2: You need to be yourself. Dress aptly for the occasion but do not over dress. You should also be empathetic and highlight your helpful nature. Basically, your simplicity and emotional quality shall impress a cancer male.
Q-3: Where should I take a cancer man on the very first date?
A-3: A quite place that is devoid of loud music and crowd is best suited. Cancerians prefer a quiet and romantic dinner. So, avoid pubs and crowded restaurants.
Q-4: Should I wear a lot of jewellery to impress my cancer man on the first date?
A-4: No, you should wear minimalist jewellery and make-up. Accessories too need to be kept to bear minimal. You should avoid over dressing.
Q-5: Should I pay the bill for the first date with a cancer male?
A-5: In my opinion, you should allow him to pay the bill. Cancerian males are hard on the outside and soft from within. If you pay the bill, he shall feel inferior. So, let him pay the food bill instead. This shall boost his ego.
Conclusive Analysis on Dating a Cancer Man for the Very First Time
Dating a cancer man can be a fun filled experience, if you do it the right way. Most women may be scared on their very first date with an emotionally charged cancerian but it is not all that ghastly as it is made to look.
Cancer man is a loving and loyal man who is aching to be your life partner. Just be yourself, be simple and have regards for his emotions. All that a cancer man wants in return from you is love, support, trust and loyalty.
If you approach a cancer man with the correct mind-set then, he can be the best thing that ever happened in your life!!!